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Adolescence comes with stubbornness, yes I know already. The goodnews is that this "stubbornness" when properly handled becomes confidence. So a parent contacted me some days ago that her Adolescent is too stubborn and she was afraid she may not amount to much if not checked. I got talking with the young girl and I can rightly say we are making good progress. Why I brought up this story?  Point is most parents and caregivers tend to give up so easily on their teenagers that it shocks me most times. There is always a tint of that independence and fight for self leadership which is mostly seen as "stubbornness" in Adolescents. "Stubbornness" and adolescence are twins that can be rightly groomed with the right tools. I may explain these tools later but let me just list then; - LOVE;   See love? That is a tool that when rightly utilized can calm even the wildest child.  Most of those children we see as stubborn and withdrawn just need a bit of loving. The righ...

... Continued from last post. G ood parenting is intentional just as every other endeavours that are result oriented. You need to fold up your sleeves, be determined and intentional about grooming your children to in turn become good adults and parents. Help them build their self confidence, teach them self-love, self-care, self-control, integrity, honesty and how to maintain important relationships. Relationships are the most essential currency on this planet, teach them not to mess with the right ones. Teach them to face the world with competence. One of the ways to achieve this is by intentionally making it a point to find something worth praising your children for every day.  Criticize them but criticism should never be more than the compliments they receive from you, it should not even measure up.  Never compare your child in a belittling way with anyone, it kills their self confidence and sometimes the will to fight for a better them. Take  time to address bad beha...

As a parent, do you have the ability to interact and engage with your children in a way that grooms them into remarkable adults? If your response to the above question was not in the affirmative you have no need to worry much. Just keep reading. Effective parenting has never been an easy task, it takes consistent effort to connect with children on a meaningful and personal level. The effectiveness of parenting is not only evident during childhood but is also seen in the adults children grow to become. Raising children has proven to be  one of the toughest but  most fulfilling job in the world and this fulfilment can only come when you get it right. As a parent or caregiver whose goal is to raise Children you will be proud of tomorrow, you need to invest  both quality and quantity time with your children. This is how you get to be involved in their lives and whatever goes on in it. Parenting from a distance has never yielded good results. Make it a priority to be part of y...

Effective communication does not just happen, especially when it has to do with an older person communicating with younger minds.  It is no longer news that the level of parent-child communication dwindles as children transit to adulthood (the period called adolescence) if intentional measures are not taken. It is thus important to note that Parent-child communication is best when built from childhood into adolescence else it will be harder breaking the walls they tend to build while growing. WHY THE BIG DEAL ABOUT PARENT-CHILD COMMUNICATION ESPECIALLY DURING ADOLESCENCE? In addition to what we know about Adolescence; it is that period they build their self image, root for acceptance among peers and adults, form life values and make decisions that may have massive influence on their adult lives. With all that adolescence entails, you can only imagine how challenging it may be for someone who is not prepared for such changes. These changes bring  about increased flare for auton...