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TOOLS FOR GROOMING

Adolescence comes with stubbornness, yes I know already. The goodnews is that this "stubbornness" when properly handled becomes confidence.
So a parent contacted me some days ago that her Adolescent is too stubborn and she was afraid she may not amount to much if not checked.

I got talking with the young girl and I can rightly say we are making good progress.




Why I brought up this story? 
Point is most parents and caregivers tend to give up so easily on their teenagers that it shocks me most times.
There is always a tint of that independence and fight for self leadership which is mostly seen as "stubbornness" in Adolescents.

"Stubbornness" and adolescence are twins that can be rightly groomed with the right tools.

I may explain these tools later but let me just list then;

- LOVE;  
See love? That is a tool that when rightly utilized can calm even the wildest child. 
Most of those children we see as stubborn and withdrawn just need a bit of loving. The right proportion of love can make your child better than that your colleagues child you so much admire.

- UNDERSTANDING; 
During my last Youngstars Hangout, my Adolescents complained - "we wish our parents understand or try to understand what we're going through". 
You may say you are the elderly one with the right to give orders but you know problems and challenges are best settled when understood.

Interact and communicate with them, that way you would understand how to best tackle whatever issues you need to settle with your Adolescent.

- COMMUNICATION;
Oh! I cannot over emphasize on this tool. This is the spice and icing on the cake of Adolescents grooming.
Communication brings connection on all platforms. 
When you consistently communicate with your Adolescents, you get first hand knowledge on whatever is happening in their lives.
Be your child's best friend and you will never have negative surprises.

I know how many Adolescents talk to me and go like "please my mum should not hear this".
The burden is much, parents please connect with your ward.

There are more tools but try this 3 tools and thank me later.

Love,
Victoria Noah
Your growth and Adolescents advocate.

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