YOUNGSTARS MATTER

What is the first thought that crossed your mind when you saw this picture?

The abuse of different kinds inflicted on our children, Adolescents and young persons by people they are supposed to go to for succour.

Aside from physical and verbal abuse, emotional and child sexual abuse (rape) had become a daily occurrence in our society...

Our children have lost the confidence and sense of safety they once felt around an adult of the opposite sex.

To think that Father's can no longer bath their daughters, Nieces can no longer visit uncles or be left in the same room with them for more than few minutes, daughters are no longer safe with fathers who are now defenders turned predators.

Babies are now unprepared mothers dying in pains and silence.

Silent because of the fear of discrimination because Mummy and Daddy said they should keep quiet, "nobody will marry a girl who is known to be a rape victim" they say.

And while the girl child is still trying to clean the blood and nurse the vaginal tear... The boy child has been molested but can't speak up because nobody really cares that the boy child is being raped.

In the quest to "be a man" he swallows the hurt and grows hardened which may extend to all humanity if not checked.

HOW DID WE GET HERE???

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BACK TO MY THOUGHTS ON THE PICTURE...

Amidst the stares, I see a WARRIOR.

Yes, a warrior who has fought for survival in her own way. Fighting to survive the weight put on her when she was yet not ready.

I see a youngSTAR struggling to shine again.

I SEE INSPIRATION!

I SEE MOTIVATION!!

I SEE PURPOSE DRIVE!!!

I would love to know your thoughts.

Kindly use the comment section.

Thank you.

Love,

Victoria Noah

Your Adolescents and growth advocate.

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